Hello Readers,

Sorry i went an almost year long hiatus, im sure some of you have forgotten me but thats okay.

For the past year, a lot has happened. I have changed soo much as a person, ive changed for better and for worse. I have grown up but also taken a few steps backward and for this i need more change.

For once, i need to write more. It just helps to keep me in sync with my life, balanced, in a way centered.  I think i  will just slowly tell you what happened, but its been a roller coaster, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.

I love you and cant wait to see what this new year has in store for us.




Consent: Not actually that complicated

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A short one today as my life is currently very complicated and conspiring against my preference to spend all of my days working out what to blog. But do you know what isn’t complicated?


It’s been much discussed recently; what with college campuses bringing in Affirmative Consent rules, and with the film of the book that managed to make lack of consent look sexy raking it in at the box office. You may not know this, but in the UK we more or less have something similar to ‘affirmative consent’ already. It’s how Ched Evans was convicted while his co-defendant was not – and is along the lines of whether the defendant had a reasonable belief that the alleged victim consented. From the court documents it appears that while the jury felt that it was reasonable to believe that the victim had consented to intercourse with the co-defendant, it…

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I will sing

I will sing him a song

A last farewell

A goodbye

How do you say bye

To the man that means so much?

This is for my father.

I will sing him a song

A last farewell.

Rest in Peace


Certified Son of God


It is in you I find life
It is in you I lose it
The world around is flooding in
The voices in my head won’t let me sleep
They tell me to just give up and simply give in
But your word tells me “don’t be dismayed”
Your word says “let it all go”
And simply trust You
For it is in you I find peace
And It is in you I find Hope
For all I lost, I gained even more
Yes even more abundantly
For nought is truly lost
You are in everything
You are everything
It is in you I find life
It is in you I lose it
Yes I gave all up
But I gained

Luke 17:33 ASV

Whosoever shall seek to gain his life shall lose it: but whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.

I Remain
Ochuko A. Akpomudjere

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Certified Son of God

IMG_2399Live, I say! Live!!!
Live like tomorrow doesn’t exist
Live like you know you’re free
Live, your life, for it is yours alone to live
Live, for dreams are free
Live, damn you, live and take risks
Take the risk and be You
Be the You, you were created you to Be
Live, I say Live, for you’re not them
Live therefore outside their opinions
Live outside their limitations
Live on the edge of your limits
Live like you just cannot fail
Live a life without fear
For what you fear would surely haunt you
Live life till you’re full
For the worst would happen
And The Best will too
But through it all, I’d be with You
The wind beneath your wings
So Live Life and Be You…

I Remain
Ochuko A. Akpomudjere

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Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.. Happy Birthday Rev!

Michael Luther King was born on this day in 1929, in Atlanta, Georgia. He received his father’s name “Martin” at the age of six. Dr. King’s LAST SPEECH was his famous “I’ve Been the Mountaintop”. What is not well known, is his LAST SERMON – “The Drum Major Instinct” delivered to his congregation from the pulpit of Ebenezer Baptist Church on February 4, 1968. Of all of his speeches & sermons, “The Drum Major Instinct” is by far my favorite. This sermon defined for me TRUE LEADERSHIP as well as to seek greatness through service and love.

So many think leadership is based on your obtained position…WRONG. TRUE LEADERSHIP, as Doc, teaches from Mark 10:35, is based on SERVICE. He tells, Jesus said to his disciples, he who is GREATEST among you shall be a SERVANT. He who is SERVANT of all, shall be CHIEFEST of All. This has been my guiding principle.

Now he tells us about this INSTINCT within us all, he says, “We all want to be important, to surpass others, to achieve distinction, to lead the parade…this quest for recognition, this desire for attention, this desire for distinction is the basic impulse, the basic drive of human life, this Drum Major Instinct.”

He goes on to say that as babies we cry for attention because of the Instinct. As adults, he said we love the attention from being praised and that only time we don’t like praise is when that PRAISE is going too much towards someone else (Doc, did you just call out HATERS?). He says that every one of us likes to be praised because of this Real Drum Major Instinct.
In effect Dr. King, is saying in some form or fashion we want to be FIRST because of this Instinct that is naturally inside of us. We want to be The Drum Major and lead the Parade. Right now I can hear some of you saying, “that’s not me, I don’t want to be out front”. This may be true BUT, YOU LIKE PRAISE…you lying if you say otherwise.

In the end, The Good Dr. says its okay to want to be FIRST, but be FIRST in LOVE. Be FIRST in GENEROSITY. Be FIRST in SERVICE to humanity (feed the hungry, clothe the naked, visit those in prison, etc). Be FIRST in UNDERSTANDING. Be FIRST in putting YOU LAST. Teach me Doc, teach me!

We are all better having had such a Drum Major. But what of his Marching Band? What manner of people were they? His Marching Band was VISIONARY. His Marching Band was UNSELFISH. His Marching Band was COURAGEOUS. His Marching Band was DETERMINED. My Mama was in his Marching Band, that’s how I know!

My Mama told me WE had to take Literacy Tests and interpret the US Constitution from people no better educated than US! If WE passed, THEN WE could pay $2.00 to vote for a candidate on the ballot, none of which gave a damn about US! Why? Because my Mama and millions like her were UNSELFISH enough to subject themselves to that humiliation for the greater good. Next, they were VISIONARIES, cause even though their day was far from DEMOCRATIC, they KEPT THEIR EYES ON THE PRIZE. That’s why we saw so many folks from our parents’ generation and older were crying at the election of President Obama. He represented the manifestation of their wildest DREAMS. (Quote by Carl)

It’s been a longgg longg time coming.. but a change is gonna come. hbd

So let us take this Day to remember

Remember this phenomenal man,

Let us learn from me

Let us be inspired

Let us go and make change!

Thank God for MLK

Thank God for our leaders

Thank God for life.

Thank you God, for MLK

Happy Birthday Reverend!!